Are you one of those \u201cYes\u201d people? The people who always are on the run because of their inability to say no to anyone, not even themselves? While such people are quite kind and gentle with everyone without exception, they tend to try to please everyone, often at the expense of their own unattended needs. Don\u2019t get me wrong, it\u2019s a commendable thing to do, being helpful to others. However, there are a couple of things you need consider: first, you risk others taking advantage of your good heart; and second, you’ll find that you have no time to focus on what matters to you \u2013 your goals, your principles, yourself. Often, not having the willpower to turn down things doesn\u2019t only relate to your interactions with other people. It might also mean you cannot exercise self-control more generally, as when dieting, or trying to cut back on your smoking, for instance.<\/p>\n
Going from I-will-please-every-single-person-on-earth to let\u2019s focus-on-me-now is a slow and perhaps painful process, but this change in attitude is definitely possible.<\/p>\n
When you visualize how a present action might affect your future it makes it easier for you to resist the temptation of yielding to yet another cigarette, or cupcake.<\/p>\n
The idea is to live and see the present you through future lenses, to be constantly reminded of the immediate and upcoming consequence of any of your actions. This is a strategy for being in control of your willpower in the present; it\u2019s about becoming impervious to your own weaknesses. Thankfully, the ability to refuse or turn down any temptation is not inherent, it can be learned. It mostly resides in the ability to stick to certain goals, to keep our minds focused on what the end result of a struggle might be.<\/p>\n For instance, if you find it hard to set aside time every day to work on your speed reading skills, you might be tempted to keep putting it off and playing computer games instead. In this instance, it would be helpful to visualize a typical workday after you’ve increased your reading speed, where you have the extra time you need to get through your projects, meaning that you’re much less stressed and much more productive<\/a>. Having your target immediately accessible at all times in your mind will almost ensure you will have the I won\u2019t power needed to succeed.<\/p>\n This is a great way to trick your brain to work with you instead of against you. Next time you\u2019re in a mental argument and you’re saying to yourself, \u201cNo, I don\u2019t need this extra serving of red velvet cake, I already had one. No I won\u2019t eat it!\u201d try this instead:\u00a0 turn the conversation into something positive or constructive, like \u201cI think I will go for a walk\u201d or \u201cI will call Mary.\u201d<\/p>\n By turning a negative into a positive you comfort your brain, because you don\u2019t let it feel there\u2019s something it\u2019s deprived of. In fact you take that need completely out of the picture and focus on something less damaging.<\/p>\n The overall idea to strengthen your power to say no comes down to three different but intertwined aspects of willpower<\/strong>:<\/p>\n Remember, your power to focus on the things that matter can defeat your weakness to yield any day.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Are you one of those \u201cYes\u201d people? The people who always are on the run because of their inability to say no to anyone, not even themselves? While such people are quite kind and gentle…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-496","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.spreeder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/496","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.spreeder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.spreeder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.spreeder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.spreeder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=496"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.spreeder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/496\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.spreeder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=496"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.spreeder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=496"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.spreeder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=496"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\n<\/strong><\/p>\nBoost your \u201cI will not\u201d willpower.<\/h2>\n
Turn negatives into positives.<\/h2>\n
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